"Compelling, revolutionary, and wise, The Self-Driven Child empowers parents with the courage, the tools, and the mindset to reduce toxic stress, and to foster our child’s capacity for resilience, success, and optimal development. Its message—that we should trust kids to have more control over their own lives—is one every parent needs to hear."
Tina Payne Bryson, PhD
The Whole Brain Child and The Yes Brain
“Stixrud and Johnson combine science and compassion to make the case that parental over-control is eroding our kids’ confidence, competence and mental health. Accessible, compelling and richly researched, The Self Driven Child reveals the clear links between the stressses of competitive schooling and the anxiety and depression that are so widespread in kids today. This urgently-needed book has the potential to revolutionize the way we parent."
author of A Perfect Madness:
Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety
“Stixrud and Johnson provide in-depth information on how to give your child more control without letting them run amok, discuss ways to reduce parents' stress levels, and emphasize the importance of physical exercise and sufficient sleep. . . . Timeless advice for parents."
“Stixrud and Johnson provide compassionate, well-supported suggestions and strategies for parents to help their kids deal with ever-more-competitive academics and extracurriculars...By studying the levels of stress and motivation in children, the authors discovered that 'a low sense of control is enormously stressful and that autonomy is the key to developing motivation.' Stixrud and Johnson theorize that a sense of control is the 'antidote to stress,' touching on common stressors for American kids, such as social media, demanding homework, and lack of sleep . . . The authors make a highly persuasive case for how parents can help their children segue from feeling stressed and powerless to feeling loved, trusted, and supported."
“If you still have questions about whether or not excessive pressure and a narrow version of success are truly harming our children, The Self-Driven Child is an absolute must-read. While most books on the impact of stress on child development offer anecdotes and clinical examples, Stixrud and Johnson make it clear that it is now research that explains why kids don’t thrive under our current priorities. A healthy child needs a healthy brain. Not only do they produce the evidence that shows why unremitting achievement pressure is toxic to our children, they also show us what the alternative would look like. It is not an overstatement to say that this is one of the most radical and important books on raising healthy, resilient, purpose-driven kids."
Madeline Levine, PhD.
Author of The Price of Privilege and
Teach Your Children Well
“A BATTLE PLAN TO ATTACK THE ANXIETY THAT'S DEVOURING KIDS AND DECIMATING THEIR NATIVE POTENTIAL. THIS EXTRAORDINARY BOOK SHINES LIGHT INTO THE DARKNESS OF
TEST DREAD, CHRONIC SLEEPLESSNESS, 24/7
SOCIAL-MEDIA "BEAUTY PAGEANTS" AND THE FULL ARRAY OF STRESS-INDUCED FORCES THAT UNDERMINE CHILDREN. BUT STIXRUD AND JOHNSON DO MORE THAN IDENTIFY THE DEMONS – THEY SLAY THEM.
“READ THIS INCISIVE, WITTY, DEEPLY RESEARCHED BOOK AND HELP YOUR CHILD BEND TOWARD THE SUNLIGHT OF LEARNING AND SELF-DIRECTED JOY.
A MUST READ.”
Ron Suskind, Pulitzer Prize-winning
journalist and author of A Hope in the
Unseen & Life, Animated.
William Stixrud, PhD
& Ned Johnson
The Self-Driven Child, its website and associated social media presence are not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. We want you safe and at your best, so always seek the advice of your mental health professional or emergency services.